I came across this little nugget yesterday. Its spoke to me immediately and have been thinking about it non-stop whenever I start in on myself with negative whining that goes through my head. So since its been helping and I love a good car metaphor I’m passing it on to you.

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But, second, and perhaps more importantly, that whining should be telling you something. Whining is the white blue smoke in your tailpipe that lets you know you’re burning mental oil. It means you’re unconsciously devoting cycles to something that you can’t, won’t, or shouldn’t be spending time thinking about. Otherwise, why would it be bothering you, right? You’d be either extricated or done with it.

Once you pinpoint where that whine’s coming from, that’s the perfect opportunity to decide what the hell the hang-up is. Because if it’s worth whining and fussing about, it’s worth deciding what obstacle (obstruction?) in either the Real World or your own mind is keeping something from happening.

I tend not to whine too much on the outside. I spend my days with a goofy ass smile on my face trying to make the world prettier with my patent leather peep toe pumps and good coat of lipstick. My internal dialogue is a killer. I berate myself, call myself names, question the size of my brain and my ass and then expect to feel good about myself at the end of the day.

In additiona to the quote above, I also have this book that I’ve been reading off an on for the last 5 years. It reads like a children’s book but it helps when all that goes through your head is negative self talk. If the quote above isn’t helping then you definitely need this book. There is Nothing Wrong With You by Cheri Huber helped me more than any book out there. When I’m feeling crappy all I do is pick it up and read a few pages to instantly feel better. Its not about endlessly examining the psyche in complicated strings of sentences. Its about the simple phrase or single motive to get your out of your own dialogue.